An Introvert’s Guide to Holiday Parties

True to the form of an introvert, I’m not even going to small talk you into reading this. Let’s just cut to the chase and look at some wonderful tips to help the introverts of the world survive the gauntlet of parties that come this time of year:

1. Read some interesting articles you can work into the
conversation.

These can help you get past the small talk that makes introvert’s skin crawl, and into more real conversation.

• “To Siri, With Love: How One Boy With Autism Became BFF With Apple’s Siri”
• “Sorry for Getting Excited to Shop at Target”
• “The Ant’s Pants? Oxford Dictionaries Adds 1,000 New Terms”

2. Put. The. Phone. Down. But hold on to something.

Ah, yes, the smartphone. Once you’re engaged with it, everyone thinks you are busy and they magically leave you alone. This is tempting. I get it. But consider leaving it out of reach for the party. Instead, grab a drink or some hot cocoa to occupy your hands.

3. Know your limits and plan an exit.

Be a bit James Bond-esque about it if that sounds cooler. Truth is, introverts have their limits of hanging out with people and need to get quiet to recharge. Don’t set yourself up for extra stress, but rather plan some time alone this holiday. This might mean driving yourself so you can leave when you want to, and not be dependent on someone else, leaving you with a trapped feeling. If you’re consistently feeling over-stimulated, do what you need to do – even a few minutes of a walk outside can help.

“For introverts who have a high level of internal activity, anything coming from the outside raises their intensity level quickly. It’s kind of like being tickled — the sensation goes from feeling good and fun to ‘too much’ and uncomfortable in a split second.” (The Introvert Advantage: How to
Thrive in an Extrovert World by Marti Olsen Laney)

4. Get a job.

Holiday party at a friend’s house? Ask if you can help clear the table after, or refill drinks, or take the trash out. This way you’re interacting AND helping AND getting a little space – what’s not to love?

5. Pay people compliments.

This is a great icebreaker, and it is a “mini-conversation” without needing to stick around to talk about the weather. Plus, people will remember you as a genuinely nice person.

6. Read some good verses on peace.

John 14:27: “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”

7. Find someone who likes to talk. Or even better, who needs to talk.